Extreme Unstoppable Crying!
November 21st, 2018
By Kiera Ashford - Baby Watch Blog
I had an emotional wake up call over the weekend. It's one that never happened with my previous pregnancies and one that I hope will not happen again — unstoppable crying.
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You know that intense hormone roller coaster everyone is always talking about? Well, I hit the top of that sucker on Saturday morning and that ride was one I wish I'd avoided. A crying jag to end all crying jags, it gave me a real worry that it might happen again.
My Emotional Triggers
Just about anything can trigger emotions in pregnancy, from watching a sappy movie to hugging friends and family to things going wrong ... there's always something that can push that button. Once it's been pushed, the waterworks begin. So what were MY triggers last Saturday?
Trigger #1: I woke up in a panic. I couldn't breathe, couldn't go back to sleep and my mind was racing with all that I had to do. I lay there quietly in the bed propped up on pillows and trying to calm myself. So I began to wimper. Then I cried and cried as quietly as I could in order not to wake my husband. Eventually I made it to the bathroom and let it all out. I dressed and wept. I checked on the sleeping kids still sobbing. I fed the dogs with a wet face and a runny nose. Time to blow.
Trigger #2: Small spaces for my big, old growing self. I tried to leave for the grocery store before everyone else woke up, but the moment I sat in the car and attempted to turn the key, I started crying. I had to get out. Back inside, I cried as I polished and shined.
Trigger #3: Later, at the store, we'd barely taken two steps inside before the kids started arguing over who was going to push the cart. I turned us all around and back home we went as I called my sister for backup. She came over to swim with my kids while my husband and I went on errands. Sniff, sniff.
Trigger #4: The realization that crying makes me cry more. How can anyone cry so much, I wondered?
WHY AM I TELLING YOU THIS?
Because it happens in pregnancy. So here are some tips since I've finally stopped the waterworks at least for now:
• Let it All Out: Who cares if you have to lock the bathroom door? If the rest of the family is taken care of, then it's time to take care of yourself! Let it all out. Cry over the dead flowers in the garden. Cry over the laundry still in the washer and dryer. Think about all of it and just let yourself cry. A good cry is OK because it becomes essential sometimes and can actually make you feel better in the end.
• Call for Backup: Calling a friend or family member over to help is a good thing. Now you've got time for a good, long cuddle from your spouse.
• Occupy Yourself: Let the tears flow over your cheeks while you do the dishes, laundry, dust, etc. Eventually the tears will stop and you'll wonder what the fuss was all about.
• Talk to Your Children: If you're in view of your older children while having one of these crying sessions, be sure to let them know what's up. It's important everyone knows what's going on, even your partner. Explain to them that when you're pregnant, you can get emotional over any little thing for no reason, but you're still alright.
• Try to Take a Nap: Your body is wearing itself out trying to figure this emotional stuff out. You'll hopefully wake refreshed and ready to finish the day.
More about: Kiera Ashford - Baby Watch Blog
Kiera Ashford is associate editor of Nashville Parent and mother of two rambunctious kids and a new baby!