If you have a picky eater at home, take heart, you’re not alone. Murfreesboro mom, Diana Post, worries about her 2-year-old daughter, Cindy’s lack of appetite and disdain for trying new foods.
“I’m in the chicken nugget rut,” Post laments. “It’s nearly impossible to convince her to try new foods. I’m tired of fixing chicken nuggets for her every day because it’s the only thing she’ll eat aside from pudding and brownies.”
picky eater rut
Pediatricians remind parents that a child’s level of appetite shifts with age and growth cycles.
“What parents often interpret as picky eating is actually the fact that they don’t anticipate that growth slows down at age 1,” says Gregory Plemmons, M.D., professor of pediatrics and medical director of the Pediatric Weight Management Clinic at Monroe Carell Jr. Children’s Hospital at Vanderbilt. “It’s natural for parents to have a lot of anxiety about it, but they should remember that kids will eat when they are hungry. I never recommend forcing a child to eat if he doesn’t want to.”
A child’s sense of taste changes drastically during those months, and it’s important to keep offering him new options on the dinner plate, even if he doesn’t seem to like them. Gilbert says to at least insist on the child taking one bite of something new, and if he doesn’t like it, don’t force it.
“Make sure to always offer things on the plate that you know your child will eat, and be prepared to introduce something new several times before a child may decide he likes it,” Gilbert says.
picky eater power struggles
Many parents resort to bribery to get their picky child eating. Enter the power struggle.
“We used to offer something else to Brice if he wouldn’t eat what we initially put on his plate, and once we stopped doing that, we’ve had constant negotiation issues,” says Johnson. “My biggest frustration is his unwillingness to try new things, and my biggest regret is that I allowed the bargaining to ever happen.”
Other parents, like Nashville’s Darla Brown, enjoy life without the finicky eating struggle. She takes a direct approach with 3-and-a-half-year-old Jack and 19-month-old Matt. “Fortunately, both of my boys are good eaters, especially my youngest. I’ve always taken the take-it-or-leave-it approach with them,” says Brown. “They get one chance for a meal, and if they don’t want it, too bad. If they don’t eat, it goes into the trash,” she adds.
“That’s the right approach to take,” says Plemmons.
Another local mom, Kristin Barrie of Franklin, found success with her three boys – Mike, 12, Matt, 9, and Drew, 4 – by using creative names for dinner items. “My husband says it’s all in the marketing,” Barrie says. “The boys might show little interest if I’m fixing spaghetti for dinner, but when Mark says, “˜We’re having Daddy-O’s Secret Spaghetti Surprise,’ and then he splashes the pasta with Italian dressing before adding the meat sauce; they gobble it down. They also enjoy Star Wars Stew [stir fry],” she adds.
Barrie says she thwarted the power struggle by letting her boys make some of the decisions about meals. “Letting them pick out the salad dressing or steak sauce gives them a sense of choice and alleviates issues at our table.”
success equals starting early — let them get messy
“Bad habits start early, so good eating habits need to start early on,” says Plemmons. “Encourage fruits and vegetables early on, and tell children where food actually comes from. It doesn’t come from the store,” he adds. And it’s OK to let your little ones make a mess.
Gilbert says parents should give their children the same thing they eat, and to make sure it is chopped or mashed up for them to swallow. “A child is going to want what’s on Mom’s plate, and it’s important for parents to show children their own healthy eating habits,” Gilbert says.
Both pediatricians suggest letting kids be an active part of mealtime, whether it’s helping set the table or letting them assist you in the kitchen.
Also, keep in mind portion control and avoid a “clean-your-plate” message. “Remember the size of the stomach is the size of a person’s fist, so don’t overload the plate,” Gilbert says, adding that parents should offer just enough to satisfy the food pyramid guidelines.
As with all other parenting scenarios, consistency is important. “Parents should always be consistent in what they say,” says Gilbert. “Don’t tell your child he can’t have dessert unless he eats his meal first and then cave in if he doesn’t uphold his end of the deal.”
Pick up one of these books to help you turn your pick eaters into enthusiastic ones.
My Two-Year-Old Eats Octopus: Raising Children Who Love to Eat Everything
By Nancy Tringali Piho
Bull Publishing Company; $16.95
As a 20-plus-year veteran of the food marketing industry and as a mom of two little boys who love to eat, author Nancy Tringali Piho blends humor and real-life situations to help parents combat picky-eating syndrome and encourage their little ones to enjoy the exploration of new foods.
Red Light, Green Light, Eat Right: The Food Solution that Lets Kids Be Kids
By Joanna Dolgoff, M.D.
Pediatrician Joanna Dolgoff serves up a unique, healthy approach to childhood eating that uses traffic light colors to segregate foods into three categories: Green (Go!), Yellow (Slow!) and Red (Uh Oh!).
The Toddler Bistro: Child Approved Recipes and Expert Nutrition Advice for the Toddler Years
By Christina Schmidt, M.S. Nutrition
Bull Publishing Company; $16.95
Schmidt presents logical ways to persuade kiddos to eat their veggies and try new foods while offering parents everything they need to ensure their children are getting necessary nutrition in all the food groups.
Whining & Dining: Mealtime Survival for Picky Eaters and the Families Who Love Them
By Emma Waverman and Eshun Mott
Random House; $28.88
More than 100 recipes abound in this title that is part cookbook, part parenting manual. The family-friendly recipes are sure to be a hit with the pickiest little eaters, especially the pasta and vegetable ones. Lots of anecdotes and hints fill the pages, helping parents enjoy a more peaceful place in the kitchen and around the dinner table.