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June 23, 2024

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Help for Anxiety Disorders in Children

Are your rearranging your child's life to avoid triggers? It may be best to get professional help for her instead.

My daughter was 9 years old when she had her first panic attack. She was trembling, out of breath and her heart pounded. These symptoms persisted for almost 10 minutes and nothing I said or did could help her calm down. Because her symptoms occurred before her performance in a class play, though, I dismissed it as stage fright. When she suffered the same symptoms a short time later — this time before a party at her school — I realized something was wrong. Especially when she told me what triggered her intense physical symptoms: she could not stop worrying that something bad would happen to me as I drove to her school.

Having some anxiety is a normal part of life for most kids. After all, what child doesn’t feel anxious before taking a test? Or making a presentation in front of the class? And what about trying out for the team? Some children, though, feel worry or fear constantly.

According to Margaret Benningfield, M.D., a specialist in anxiety disorders with Vanderbilt Behavioral Health, anxiety disorders involve “intense, excessive and persistent worry and fear about everyday situations.” Further, such feelings of anxiety and panic “interfere with daily activities, are difficult to control, are out of proportion to the actual danger and can last a long time.” The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that 9.4 percent of children ages 3 – 17 were diagnosed with anxiety between 2016 – 2019. That’s 5.8 million kids. And ever since the COVID-19 pandemic, the number of kids with an anxiety disorder has soared even higher.

After visiting the pediatrician, my daughter was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder. Now she sees a therapist and takes medication to treat her anxiety. Through her experience, I have learned so much about anxiety disorders in children. I’m sharing what I’ve learned below in hopes of helping other parents and caregivers.

Types of Anxiety Disorder in Children
There are several types of anxiety disorders, related to what the worries or fears are about, or how children handle them. According to Vanderbilt Health, the most common anxiety disorders in kids include the following: 

  • Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) is constant worrying about a lot of different things out of proportion to the actual circumstance.  
  • Panic disorders are characterized by sudden, intense fear that leaves a child feeling physically overwhelmed and out of control, even when there is no danger. 
  • Separation anxiety is the fear that something bad will happen to a parent or loved one when the child is separated from them. Some separation anxiety is a normal developmental phase for babies and toddlers, but not necessarily for older children.
  • Social anxiety is extreme anxiety and fear of being embarrassed in social situations, like talking with classmates or answering a question in class. It is more than simple shyness.

According to the CDC, the most typical symptoms of anxiety disorders in children include:

  • Showing anxiety or expressing worry or fear on most days
  • Trouble sleeping which may manifest in your child seeming sleepy or tired during the day
  • Difficulty concentrating or thinking about a problem over and over again
  • Unusual irritability and anger
  • Headaches
  • Stomachaches
  • Avoiding school or friends because worries are overwhelming
  • Trouble calming down after leaving a parent or loved one, or extreme homesickness

How to Help

Talking to your pediatrician is a first step, says Benningfield. This is what we did in my daughter’s case when we visited her doctor. A primary care doctor or mental health specialist can evaluate your child and ensure that your child’s symptoms are caused by anxiety and not another condition, such as trauma.

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and medication are the most accepted treatments to help children overcome an anxiety disorder according to the Anxiety Disorders Association of America. CBT teaches your child skills and tools to help them feel less anxious and fearful. Through CBT, for instance, my daughter learned to utilize tools like a “worry box”. She’d write down her worry on a piece of paper, then stuff the paper in a box. It was a tangible way to release her fear.

Prescription medication may also help. Parents should work closely with a health care provider to manage the use of medication and monitor your child’s response.

In addition, pediatricians advocate that parents let their anxious child know they are available to listen whenever the child is ready to talk. Many kids with anxiety believe their parents won’t understand — they also don’t want to worry their parents or disappoint them — and thus, they can work hard to hide their fears. That’s why being ready to listen is so important.

My daughter also joined an anxiety disorder support group at her school, allowing her to connect with peers who understand what she’s going through. As well, I have found support talking to other parents of children with anxiety disorders. So many have been supportive and understanding, making me feel less alone.

Anxiety is a treatable, manageable condition. As parents, we can help kids with anxiety disorders receive the tools, support and love they need to live the healthiest life possible.


Books Can Help 

Helping Your Anxious Child:
A Step-by-Step Guide for Parents

(New Harbinger; 2008)
by Ronald M. Rapee, Ph.D., Ann Wignall, Susan Spence, Ph.D.,
Vanessa Cobham, Ph.D. and Heidi Lyneham, Ph.D.

What to Do When You Worry Too Much:
A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety

(New Harbinger; 2008)
by Dawn Huebner



About the Author

Katy Clark

Katy Clark is an award-winning writer who has been published in many national publications. Her essays have appeared on sites including Scary Mommy, Your Teen, Mamalode and others. Follow her blog at