You teach your kids all kinds of safety every day — how to swim with life vests; to hold hands and look both ways before crossing the street; and to stay far away from a hot stove. These lessons become second nature, woven into our parenting without a second thought. But here’s a gentle nudge — are you giving body safety for kids the same attention?
It’s totally understandable if the idea feels a bit overwhelming. You might wonder: How do I even bring this up? What words do I use? What if it feels awkward or scary? As parents, just the thought of your child being hurt can be too much to bear. But here’s the thing — having the conversation doesn’t make anything bad happen. In fact, it does the opposite.
When you talk about body safety for kids early and openly, you give your kids tools, says Kimberly King, author of Body Safety for Young Children: Empowering Caring Adults (Gryphon House; 2023) and I Said No! A Kid-to-Kid Guide to Keep Private Parts Private (Marble Press; 2025). Tools to protect themselves, trust their instincts, and come to you if something ever feels off.
Just like you prepare them for what to do near water or in the street, you can prepare them for this, too — calmly, confidently and in a way that feels empowering, not frightening. Because when kids know they can talk to you about anything, that’s where real safety begins.
Body Safety for Kids — Without Fear
Teaching consent and body autonomy doesn’t have to wait until kids are older. In fact, King says, starting these conversations early helps children build confidence, understand their boundaries and develop the tools to speak up for themselves. When kids know that their bodies belong to them, they’re more likely to trust their instincts and respect the personal space of others, too. By talking about body safety in everyday moments, you set the stage for a future where respect and consent are second nature — not exceptions.
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Why Talking About “Touch” Matters
As parents, you’re deeply connected to your child’s world — you’re their protector, nurturer, and guide. But as they grow and interact with more people at school, family gatherings or activities, it’s important they have the tools to understand what’s OK and what’s not.
Teaching about body safety isn’t about instilling fear — it’s about giving your child knowledge, confidence and a strong sense of self.
Body Safety for Kids: 10 Gentle Ways to Teach Good Touch vs. Bad Touch
Here are some simple, calm and developmentally appropriate ways to start this important conversation, according to King:
1. Create a Safe Space for Sharing
Let your child know they can tell you anything — no matter how small, silly or scary. Trust starts with listening.
2. Name the Body Parts Honestly
Use accurate names for all body parts, including private parts. It helps children speak clearly and understand their bodies without shame.
3. Explain Body Ownership
Teach your child that their body belongs only to them. It’s OK to say, “No” to hugs, kisses or touching — even with adults or family members.
4. Use Clear, Positive Language
Talk about the body with respect and kindness. There’s nothing wrong or “bad” about any body part — it’s all about how and why someone is touching.
5. Introduce the Swimsuit Rule
An easy visual: private parts are the areas covered by a swimsuit. No one should touch these areas unless it’s for hygiene or health — and only with the child’s permission.
6. Talk About Safe Touch
A safe touch feels OK, like when a parent helps during bath time or a doctor checks them during a health visit — with the parent present.
7. Empower Them to Say, “No”
Teach your child that it’s OK to say, “No” or, “Stop” if someone makes them uncomfortable — even if that person is older or in a position of authority.
8. Practice Getting Away and Speaking Up
Role play simple scenarios where they say, “No,” move away and tell a trusted adult. These practice moments help build confidence.
9. Reassure Them They Are Never to Blame
Emphasize that if someone crosses a boundary, it’s never your child’s fault. They are not responsible for other people’s actions.
10. Let Affection Be Their Choice
Don’t force hugs or kisses — this teaches them that they’re allowed to choose who they share affection with.
11. Everyday Moments for Teaching
You don’t need a special “sit-down” moment to start these conversations. Try gently bringing it up during:
- Bath time – “Remember, only mommy and daddy can help here to keep you clean.”
- Play time – “If someone touches you in a way that doesn’t feel OK, you can always tell me.”
- Changing clothes – “Only trusted grown-ups like mom, dad or grandma can help you change.”
Staying Involved and Aware
While children learn to express their boundaries, it’s still your role to stay attentive. Keep an open line of communication and pay attention to how your child behaves around others. If something feels off — trust your instincts.
You are your child’s biggest supporter. And by starting these calm, loving conversations now, you’re giving your kids a lifelong gift: the confidence to know themselves, protect themselves, and respect others in return.
