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April 25, 2024

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Things I Want My Non-Parent Friends to Know

You love your friends, but sometimes those who don't have them don't seem to understand what it's like for you to have them!

Life changes dramatically when you have a baby … and having the first one is when your social life can really change. If you already have a toddler or a school-age child, you’re going full steam ahead. It’s tricky maintaining friendships with those who don’t have kids. Here are a few things moms want their non-parent friends to know. (With love, of course!)

Having kids is MESSY.
I may not always look my best although I try really hard to keep myself looking like I did when I went out with friends. Having kids is messy. Clothes are messy, faces, hands, the sofa, the car. I get messy. And things may be nice and tidy for 10 minutes only. — Miranda

Going out to dinner doesn’t just happen.
I can’t just drop everything and meet for dinner. I have to take care of a lot of things first to get myself to a table with or without my baby. — Kristy

I know a certain kind of tired that you don’t.
When I’m tired, we are talking about a certain kind of tired. When a friend without kids tells me she’s tired, she’s talking about a different kind of tired. I would never tell her that MY tired is so much more tired than HER tired! — Lindsey

Having a child is all-consuming.
There’s no down time, I’m always on call. Even if the baby is at her Granny’s, if she calls, I have to answer and help! — Diana

I’m not anti-social …
I just don’t have a sitter! —Jenny

Call or text me before just dropping in.
I’d just like to know before you come over so we can be ready. You never know what’s going down at my house these days.— Kiersten

Talking on the phone needs scheduling.
It’s impossible for me to talk on the phone between 3:30 and 7:30. You will only get half of my brain. The other half is focused on my first grader who I’ve just picked up and the baby will be in the car seat! Call me at night! — Julie

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